Oct 28, 20246 min read

The Childfree Choice: Redefining Joy Beyond Motherhood

I have come out of my female rage moment from the political standpoints of current potential leaders with lots of opinions on women who have never birthed a child. Welp, newsflash...neither has any other male politician, here's looking at you JD Vance. Take several seats and choke on your hypocrisy.

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Childless pet ladies, this blog and today's podcast is for you.

The insane pressure to be worthy as a woman is to birth. It breaks my heart that the only pathway for us is....that. Like we are just livestock, ya know? And the blatant double standards that men do not NEED to procreate is baffling and so frustrating. They get to walk the earth, dangaling swinging and just cool as a cucumber ready for respect.

Honestly, choosing to be childfree can feel like swimming against the current. The whispers of “You’ll change your mind” and “You’ll regret it later” echo from well-meaning family members to complete strangers. But here’s the truth that needs shouting from the rooftops: Choosing to be childfree is not only legitimate but can be just as fulfilling and joyful as choosing to have children.

Let’s break down why opting out of motherhood doesn’t mean opting out of happiness.

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Redefining Womanhood Beyond the Womb

THIS IS NOT THE GODDAMNED HANDMAIDS TALE FOR FUCKS SAKE. For centuries, society has tied a woman’s worth to her ability to bear children. But it’s 2024, and it’s high time we dismantle that outdated notion. Womanhood is not defined by motherhood. It’s defined by the choices we make, the lives we lead, and the impact we have on the world. And mostly, it is defined by our existence as living, breathing human beings. We are worthy because we are. Anything that comes after our baseline existence on this planet is just simply a choice and an extra added bonus of how awesome we are.

Womanhood exists along a spectrum and sliding scale of whatever the fuck we want it to be and how we want it to be any given moment of the day.

Choosing to be childfree doesn’t make you any less of a woman; it makes you a woman who knows what she wants and is able to have conviction. It’s about living your truth, even if that truth doesn’t include a diaper bag and PTA meetings. Your value isn’t determined by your reproductive choices. You get to choose and create the kind fo life you want for yourself.

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The Freedom of Self-Definition

Motherhood can indeed be a beautiful and fulfilling path for many individuals, providing a sense of purpose and joy and all the things, but it is simply just ONE PATH to purpose and joy. So, it's essential to recognize that there are various paths to leading a meaningful and fulfilling life. Opting to remain childfree offers a unique opportunity to craft a narrative that is entirely your own, free from the weight of societal expectations and norms.

Choosing a childfree lifestyle empowers you to design a life that is authentically yours, where your personal passions, aspirations, and dreams can take precedence. Picture the liberation of constructing a life without the limitations that parenthood can sometimes entail, where your time, energy, and financial resources are wholly dedicated to pursuits that bring you happiness and fulfillment.

Embracing a childfree existence opens up a world of possibilities - whether it involves exploring different cultures through travel, pursuing your professional ambitions with unwavering dedication, or immersing yourself in creative endeavors that ignite your soul. Ultimately, the decision to forgo parenthood is a declaration of your autonomy and a commitment to living life according to your own values and desires.

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Joy Is Not One-Size-Fits-All

The idea that joy only comes from having children is a narrow, one-dimensional view of happiness. Joy is expansive, multifaceted, and deeply personal. For some, joy is found in the laughter of their children. For others, it’s in the solitude of a morning hike, the thrill of a successful project, or the peace of a quiet home.

Choosing to be childfree doesn’t mean choosing a life devoid of joy; it means choosing a different kind of joy from the mainstream. It's a personal manifestation. It’s the joy of self-discovery, of deep and lasting friendships, of loving without limits but without obligations. It’s the joy of knowing that your happiness isn’t contingent on anyone else’s expectations.

And that freedom and personalize living is the embodiment of joy!

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The Myth of Selfishness

One of the most persistent myths about childfree women is that they’re selfish. But let’s flip that narrative. Is it selfish to know what you want out of life and to pursue it wholeheartedly? Is it selfish to choose a path that brings you fulfillment, even if it doesn’t align with the traditional script? We know this answer.

In reality, the decision to be childfree often stems from a deep understanding of oneself and a desire to live authentically. It’s about knowing that motherhood isn’t for everyone and that forcing oneself into that role would be a disservice to both the woman and the potential child. Choosing to be childfree is not about rejecting children; it’s about embracing the life that’s right for you.

I mean, wouldn't it more selfish to do something so important, like raise a human, when you knew you would suck at it, hate it, be resentful about it, absolutely despise and don't want to do it and would inevitably fuck that kids life up?? Maybe that's a better more self-less path to take ya know??

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Creating Your Legacy

Ugh. This is such a Ben Shapiro statement, right? Like men get hard just thinking about mindless spreading their seed on some disillusioned power trip that their low vibe genetics need to be cast onto earth. BARF CITY. I bet if we took this to an evolution standpoint, most of these squinty, week, mashed potato looking mother fuckers would NOT survive a day in the wild without an energy drink and porn hub. Get. Lost. Your seed spread is nothing we are asking for. (and yes, I put that in bold face type).

Motherhood is often seen as a woman’s ultimate legacy. But legacies aren’t just about raising children; they’re about leaving a lasting impact on the world. Whether it’s through your career, your art, your advocacy, or your relationships, you have the power to create a legacy that’s uniquely yours.

The childfree woman’s legacy might not be carried on through genetically related descendants, but it’s no less significant. It’s found in the lives she touches, the causes she champions, and the love she shares. It’s the freedom to build a life that resonates with her deepest values and desires.

Embrace Your Choice, Embrace Your Joy

Choosing to be childfree is not a lesser choice; it’s just a different one. It’s a path that’s as valid, fulfilling, and joyful as any other. The joy of motherhood is undeniable, but so is the joy of a life lived fully, freely, and authentically without children.

For those who choose the childfree life, know this: your choice is powerful, your happiness is real, and your life is no less rich or meaningful because of it. You are not defined by your ability to reproduce but by your ability to live fully, love deeply, and create your own version of joy.

So, here’s to the women who choose to be childfree—who choose themselves, their dreams, and their freedom.

I see you, you beautiful badass human.

Your life is your own, and that’s something to celebrate.